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GAY HOMOPHOBIA: A Test for Gay Men
How liberated are you? Or, conversely, how much do you hate homosexuality
and homosexuals including yourself? Here are some specific questions
to explore your attitudes. Answers and commentary, and what your score means,
Do you ever refer to gay men as "she"?
Do you believe that "opposites attract, likes repel"?
Are your sexual activities styled around role playing
"active"/"passive" or "butch"/"fem"?
Do you use expressions like "prick",
"cocksucker", "It sucks", and
"Fuck you!" as putdown or reproach?
When you meet a casual acquaintance, do you give or permit a
Do you ever wear (a) clothes of the opposite sex? (b) makeup
(other than to cover up a black eye or some such temporary facial disaster?
(a) Do you wear fetishistic regalia black leather motorcycle
jackets, chains, cockrings, chaps, hankie-code handkerchiefs, trousers or
cutoffs tattered to reveal private parts? (b) Do you participate in
sado-masochistic or fetishistic sex, like urolagnia (drinking piss), caprophagy
(eating shit), or fistfucking?
Do you (a) believe in your heart that straight men really are more
masculine than gay men? (b) seek out straight men in preference to gay
men for sex?
Do you go for public sex to places known to be dangerous when nondangerous
places offer similar levels of sexual opportunity?
Do you believe that "bisexuality" is more natural than exclusive
Do you like to "talk dirty" contemptuously ordering
your sex partner around or be talked to contemptuously during sex?
Do you seek out men of a different race or age from yourself?
Do you feel that the proper use of gay men's political power
is to elect women to public office and advance feminism?
If you come across as "nelly", do you do so deliberately or defiantly?
Do you accept (a) the idea that lesbians and homosexual men are the
same thing? (b) the notion that lesbians and homosexuals are a "Third
Sex" somewhere between male and female?
Do you believe (a) that "gender" is distinct from biological sex
and that one can be "a woman trapped inside a man's body" or vice
versa? (b) that one can "change his sex"?
Do you immerse yourself in the straight culture, spending enormous amounts
of time at straight theater, listening to straight music, reading straight
books and magazines, or watching straight television?
Do you travel with "faghags", taking women (straight or lesbian) to gay
men's bars, parading down gay streets with women, even taking women to men's
sex bars and outdoor sex places as proof that you are "truly liberated" and
have nothing against women?
Do you (a) believe that homosexuals are merely "sexually nonconforming"
or "liberated" rather than fundamentally different from heterosexuals?
(b) participate in heterosexual sex or read or watch hetero pornography
as proof to yourself or others that you are "liberated", "bisexual", "kinky"
or anything else rather than "queer"?
Do you think that sexual liberation means "anything goes"?
Do you tell yourself or anyone else that sex with many is better than
love with one that "monogamy is unnatural" and use that as
an excuse for an inability to love or remain faithful to one?
Are you in the closet", hiding your nature from friends, co-workers
even (or especially) from other gay men out of fear of disapproval
on being "exposed"?
Do you think that all the work of homosexual liberation is done or that
what little remains is someone else's responsibility?
Do you believe you are destined to die alone and unloved?
If you could convert to heterosexuality, would you?
ANSWERS AND COMMENTARY
All answers are NO. Each numbered item is worth 4 points;
an (a) or (b), thus, is worth 2 points.
A man, of whatever orientation, is always a man: "he".
People are not magnets. The best relationships are between people who
have something in common.
Sex is giving and getting. "Homo"sex is giving what you get, with a man,
and no one with a one-sided sexual preference is in touch with his needs.
Men who respect their (homosexuality respect their bodies and sexual
activities. They are offended by antimale, antihomosexual vulgarity and have
a positive attitude toward sex.
In the U.S., social kissing is culturally reserved to women and
men who feel themselves women. To men, touching is the second stage of sexual
contact (seeing being the first), and kissing is sexually intimate,
especially for homosexual men for whom the mouth is a primary sexual organ.
A biological repulsion for sexual contact with nonsexual acquaintances is
built into men, and social kissing is most unnatural to men.
(a) Transvestism is always a sign of sexual confusion and self-denial.
It is always unhealthy. (b) In the U.S., makeup is culturally reserved
to women; any man who says he wears it without subverting his manhood is
lying at least to you and probably to himself too.
(a) Fetishism is a splintering of sex from personality (emotionality)
and a diversion of the sexual impulse from seeking out a person to
playing with things instead. Sexual preference for things over people
is a serious mental disorder. Sado-masochism, like fetishism, reduces people
to things; like role-playing, it reduces a person to a peg or a hole
it being vastly easier to find a peg or hole than a complete men who fits
emotionally, more than just physically. But sado-masochism adds a twisted
self-hatred to fetishism and roleplaying. The masochist feels himself fit
only to be despised and abused punished; the sadist punishes himself
in hitting or humiliating his partner, for he identifies with that partner.
S&M between men is antihomosexual psychodrama.
(a) All biologically normal men who have an XY chromosome arrangement
are equally masculine by nature. If a man is alienated from his manhood it
is because he is out of touch with his nature. (b) Truly straight men are
not available for sex with men, so any such quest is a self-issued guarantee
of unhappiness. Further, there is no reason to seek out straight men save
to feel like a woman. Preference for men who want women shows you don't feel
yourself a man. You have bought the lie.
People who like themselves protect themselves. Gay men who endanger
themselves, not just in public sex but in choosing threatening sex partners,
do so from hatred of their orientation: "I deserve trouble for wanting a
"Bisexuality is normal" is the most insidious of lies, for it suggests
that merely because our bodies can respond to various stimuli, our sexuality
must seek out all stimuli. But we are not amebas moving toward warmth or
plants growing toward light but men, and sexuality was integrated with and
subordinated to emotionality in our species thousands of years ago. Emotionality,
not sensory capability. determines what is pleasurable and desirable. and
emotional orientation is specific to one gender or the other. since the two
sexes are markedly different.
Communication by sound is a natural part of sex. But there's a big difference
between sex talk about what is pleasing and sex talk that degrades one's
partner. The difference between "I really like that" and "Suck my dick,
cocksucker" is by no means subtle.
Homosexuality is self-affirmation: seeking out a man (the Latin
sense of '"homo") like yourself (the Greek sense of "homo'). What
might revealingly be called "hetero-racism" and hetero-ageism" evidence dislike
for oneself. They are distinct from mere openness to the possibility that
someone different from you in some regards might be enough like you in others
as to make a relationship possible.
The proper use of gay men's political power is to elect gay men to political
office so they can speak out for gay men at all levels of government, from
city thru Congress and even the Presidency. Gay men who vote for women over
men reveal antimale aggressions and confusions. Feminism seeks to advance
women at the expense of men. Voting for women does not excuse you in straights'
minds from sleeping with them, and it doesn't prove you "normal", only guiltily
and confusedly antimale and thus anti-self.
Not every man moves like John Wayne, but our bodies do give us naturally
masculine ways if we let them move as they want to. Nelliness springs from
self-doubt. Wanting a man does not make you any the less a man. Sex between
men is a fully masculine activity even, when mutual and not distorted
to imitate heterosexuality, a supermasculine, purely masculine activity.
You must liberate yourself from feelings of inadequacy dumped onto gay men
by malicious people who don't understand homosexuality perhaps because
they don't understand themselves,
(a) A lesbian is not a man and is not attracted to men. A homosexual is
not a woman and is not attracted to women. Intrinsically. then,
homosexuals and lesbians are as different as two people can be. It is as
unreasonable to suggest they should join together because they are "both
drawn to their own sex" (and thus away from each other) as it would be to
suggest that the Ku Klux Klan and Black Nationalists should unite in a single
organization and hold mixed dinner dances because they are "both racists".
Homosexuals and lesbians do hold dances together when neither of them
wants to dance with the other! That is just plain nuts. The fact that homosexuals
and lesbians are "both attracted to their own sex" is
meaningless. Homosexuality and lesbianism could be the same
thing in truth only if a gay man having sex with a lesbian would be having
homosexual sex. He would not. Men are our lives and our selves. To men alone
do we owe dedication of all resources and efforts of gay organizations. (b)
There are two sexes, period. While some very rare people have chromosome
abnormalities, they are individual freaks of nature, not a third sex with
uniform characteristics. Virtually all homosexuals and lesbians are chromosomally
normal: XY, male, in the case of homosexuals; XX, female, in the case of
lesbians. Even if one were to categorize "sex" by orientation-plus-gender,
he would end up with four sexes, not three, with lesbians to the left of
straight women and homosexuals to the right of straight men, showing lesbians
and gay men as the extreme opposite sexes. However, there are not
four sexes, not three, but only two, and chromosomes determine those.
(a) Gender is not a shirt you can put on and take off at will. It is a
biological reality indelibly inscribed in our cells, not carelessly written
on a daydream. Gender is chromosomal configuration. That someone has been
made to feel estranged from his gender does not negate that gender. (b) Like
species, gender is genetic, not cosmetic, imaginary, or transitory. If you
are born XY, you will remain XY a man in every single cell
of your body till the day you die. And that is a very good thing.
To be "cultured" in a straight society is to be filled to overflowing
with heterosexual images, lyrics, and preconceptions. Impressions made by
dazzling or merely omnipresent heterosexual culture can overwhelm
one sensorily and subject him to grave confusions about who he is and what
he wants out of life. Straights go to the (straight) theater, etc., to revel
in their orientation, and they find their identities powerfully reinforced;
but homosexuals find these same powerful influences subverting their identity,
for they are moved to identify with what they are not. Until a culture risen
from and reflective of homosexuality fills theaters and television screens,
we endanger our self-conception when we immerse ourselves in "culture"
for that culture is heterosexual. not neutral.
Intruding women into gay men's privacy is antihomosexual aggression against
men's right to be alone with men. Faghagfags are enormously confused about
gender they think of their faghag friends and themselves as "the girls
out on the town"; they use woman as shields against the sex they fear as
much as want; they need desperately to reassure themselves that they are
"normal"; and they (over)compensate for feelings of inadequacy (they do not
feel like men in the presence of men) by flaunting socially-defined superiority:
heterosexuality over homosexuality: man-with-women supreme over men-with-men.
Faghags and the fags who drag them into places women just do not belong in
are pitiful creatures who should not, for pity, be allowed to destroy men's
privacy with men. [See "The
Faghag-Fag" in HI! Magazine
(a) Sexual activity is the smallest part of sexuality, and our sexual
orientation is not floating free but anchored securely to men. Our nature
compels us to seek out men, not defy convention. If society were homosexual
we would be perfectly happy to conform, as "clone" fashion demonstrates.
(b) Homosexuals should admit that their preference for men of necessity,
by the very nature of male sexuality, also means distaste for women. (The
reverse, a revulsion for men on the part of heterosexual men, cannot be as
strong, for it would work against the self, and so is unnatural. One cannot
regard himself as attractive to others if he does not feel attractive to
himself. Nor could a man function autoerotically if he felt repelled by his
(man's) body. A large part of the pleasure any man feels in masturbation
is having a cock in his hand and feeling it warm, hard, throbbing with sex
and surging with come. There is built into a man's biological nature a sexual
tolerance, indeed excitement, for himself and, by extension, others of his
gender.) Gay men pay a very high price to be homosexual, and we would not
pay anything like that price if we could stand the prospect of living with
women and without men. "Bisexuals" are not prepared to pay any price to be
homosexual, not because they are not homosexual but because they are selfish.
Theirs, however, is a selfishness that disserves the self. Sexual activity
with persons of both sexes shows not a healthy regard for both possibilities
but rather a tragic failure to achieve personal identity and a low regard
for the people one uses for gratification. A person without commitment
to one sex or the other cannot be faithful to any person, of either sex.
That is assuredly not liberation, for it condemns the "bisexual" to eternal
Sexual liberation is the ability to do what is right and not feel bad
about it. It is being able to give and get, equally, without embarrassment,
guilt, or exploitation. Sexual lawlessness regarding violence, child
molestation, fetishism, sado-masochism, bestiality, and every other possible
outlet for sexual feelings or aggressions as equally valid is not liberation
Young and inexperienced men may be promiscuous, but men who have "sown
their wild oats" need to be involved with one person with whom sex integrates
with love. Men are fundamentally marriage-minded. Men have always controlled
all societies, and all societies have some form of marriage: ergo, men invented
marriage out of their own needs.
Like most things we don't face, fear of "exposure" builds up in the mind
to ridiculous heights; the longer one puts off "coming out", the wilder the
imagination can get as to the consequences of such a "rash act". It may well
be that the person who most disapproves of homosexuality is the guy in the
closet. Well-adjusted straights have too much to think about bills,
the kids, their marriage. etc. to worry much about whether the guy
next door or at the next desk is queer. COME OUT, COME OUT, WHEREVER YOU
Until all men are free to love men; until no kid anywhere in the world
feels himself a monster, utterly alone, unspeakably wicked and depraved for
wanting a man; until our institutions are wholesome and self-reinforcing
and all gay men are comfortable with themselves and involved happily with
one another, that long will there be work to do in the gay movement. The
movement needs intelligent, wholesome men who are glad to be homosexual and
ecstatic to be men. If that description fits you, work to reform misguided
organizations or start new organizations free of error.
The end of promiscuity or "serial monogamy" is dying alone and unloved.
Sooner or later the string of partners runs out. If sexuality cannot secure
us in loving relationships, then that sexuality is not doing what sexuality
was designed to do: make us need someone and bond to him. If you believe
that you will fail to get that permanence, you believe, at end, that
homosexuality is defective. And if you're afraid nobody will want you when
you're old and gay, you'd better work on the negative things in your personality
or (more likely) in the gay world that threaten an old age of emptiness.
Finally, if you want to convert to heterosexuality, buddy, please do.
You're not fit to be kweer. But if you want to be homosexual, and happy as
such, check your score below.
© L. Craig Schoonmaker
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80-100: Congratulations! You are a homosexual
man. You have something to say to others less fortunate, and the movement
needs you. But HI! may be the only organization you'll be
60-80: Good. You are well on
the way to being the man you should be, a man who accepts himself and seeks
good things from life because he feels he deserves them. You can help others
but still have some growing to do. HI! might be a good place to do
40-80: Hmm. You have a lot of
thinking and changing to do to achieve happiness as a homosexual man. You
need to read our stuff and talk your problems thru. Contact us.
20-40: It's time to worry. You
are seriously disturbed in your attitudes toward homosexuality and yourself.
You need to join a gay men's organization or speak with a male counselor.
Tho you need to read our publications. it will be a while before you can
0-20: Run, do not walk, to a professional
gay male counselor. You are extremely disturbed and may destroy
yourself unless you receive help.
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